Being The Real You.

If you close your eyes and imagine your self in the life that you want for yourself what do you see?
Is this the person that we see on the outside? If you are a chef are you a chef by choice. Are you at home with the children because that is where you want to be? Are you working as a Director with big responsibilities because you enjoy the pressure?
If we all stop and think about the things that light our fire we will probably know deep down that what we are actually doing is what pays the bills or passes the time. It is what we do to survive and we quite enjoy it really but as to our passions or what we really want well………………
I dare you. To dream, to sit and daydream about what you would really like to do. Turn everything off. The television, the radio, the kids everything and just sit with yourself for five or ten minutes and really think, really listen to what you are saying to yourself.
If your dreams are big I am not asking you to jump on a plane instantly and set up home in a hut on a beach on some remote island. But I am thinking that may be, just may be, you should be listening to your inner self.
Some of the things that we want for ourselves are not instantly possible. But to forget the real self and settle for whatever is happening around us, or to us is to easy and we are not living the true life that we want to live.
Now you have had your daydream what is the next plan of action. Or are you not going to do anything. In which case maybe you were not listening to yourself loud enough.
Why not write down your dreams. The ambitions that you suddenly realise you want. It dose not matter how big or how small but it must be important to you or you would not have thought about it. Write down all that you saw in your daydream. Write down who was there, what you were wearing, note things that seemed different.
I don’t know what your dreams are. I don’t know how you are going to go about achieving them. But I do know that you know, really know ways that you could start to achieve them.
If you have always decided that you are going to live by the sea when you are 65 and you are now 52 and have been saying it for years then it is something that your heart desires but you have not been listening. But now you have got to the grand age of 52 and realise that this is what you want - you can now start planning it.
You can start your journey slowly be taking a holiday in the place that you think you want to live when you retire. You can check out things like how far you are from the facilities that you might need. If you don’t know where you want to live then you can pick an area and start looking at places on the Internet or in books or take a touring holiday around the areas you like.
Then there are the finances to look into, check out whether the retirement fund is up to what you want out of your retirement. And so on and so on.
Suddenly your dream is not just a dream anymore. O.K. so it has not happened instantly but if you have not started planning it now it would still be a dream when you are 65. “When I’m 70 I’m going to retire to the sea” and so it would go on until it is too late.
Living the dream dose not have to mean that you have everything you heart desires. We have responsibilities in our lives and other people that we have to consider, look after and be there for. But we don’t have to lose sight of what we want in our lives.
So be brave and start to plan. Explore the possibilities. See what is needed to move in the right direction. One step forward is better that taking no action at all.
Pick up that pen and paper or a fresh page on your computer word pad and plan this big idea properly.
Write down in a Specific way your goal. Make it stretching, systematic and synergistic.
Now make it Measurable, meaningful, memorable and even magical.
After you have done this decide what is really Achievable. Draw up an action plan and make yourself accountable, revise this goal that you are now setting for yourself and make sure it is agreeable. Now think about how Realistic it is. Make it reasonable maybe result orientated and defiantly rewarding. The last thing to plan is the Time-bound arrival of it all coming together. Really put some thought into it and make it tangible. Suddenly you have something that is really worth working toward. Now you have something that you really want to do and a plan of action that is going to challenge you into achieving the real you. Congratulations you!